Change before you have to (or before it becomes too late)

All through my life, I knew what was right but I could not engage in it. All through my life, I knew what was wrong, but I could not abstain from it.” – King Duryodhan on his deathbed, in the great Indian epic Mahabharata (3102 BC)

Story Line:
This series about change covers the beliefs and forces that cause people to resist change.

What are some of the things that hinder or prevent positive change?
1. My way is the only way and others can take the highway. King Duryodhan, the most powerful and intelligent man of his era, knew that failure to change his behaviors and techniques could lead to his downfall and the demise of his empire. However, his blind ambition (with added ego) prevented him from changing his behaviors to what he knew was right.

2. You’ve got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your father was aka “The Way We Were Syndrome” i.e., resting on past glories of their culture, family and company history. What matters is what you do NOW. Past is history, tomorrow is mystery, TODAY is REALITY.

3. As long as the others change it will be good i.e., Expecting others to change while refusing to change our own behavior. Change begins with you and it does not begin until you do. The best way to inspire people to change is by our actions and results.

4. Your successful path will block your vision to the future i.e., clinging to the practices that have made us successful and not recognizing the environmental forces dictating fundamental changes.

5. Old habits die hard or you die with them. Dennis Waitley, in “Psychology of Winning”, narrates a story about a tribe in one country. Research showed that high premature death rate in that tribe was due to the disease created by some kind of insects in the area where they lived. But they refused to move to better place offered by the government and continued dying. There are many similar examples all around us.

6. Failure to recognize the “Web of Life”. All things are connected. Whatever befalls the earth befalls the sons and daughters of the earth. Man did not weave the web of life; he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself. These words represent the wisdom of the ages from every culture: “As we sow, so shall we reap.” Just look at the root causes of the recent global economic collapse, wars, natural disasters, spread of diseases, crimes and all kinds of excursions.

7. Those who never learn from history are forever condemned to repeat it. No further words needed for this.

Reflection: There is an age old saying “Only thing constant in life is change.” Then by resisting change, one is going against the very process that keeps them alive (Life).


Philosophy of Life

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican fishing village.
A tourist complimented the local fishermen on the quality of their fish and asked how long it took them to catch it.

“Not very long.” they answered in unison.

“Why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more?”

The fishermen explained that their small catches were sufficient to meet their needs and those of their families.

“But what do you do with the rest of your time?”

“We sleep late, fish a little, play with our children, and take siestas with our wives.
In the evenings, we go into the village to see our friends, have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs.

We have a full life.”

The tourist interrupted,

“I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you!
You should start by fishing longer every day.
You can then sell the extra fish you catch.
With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat.”

“And after that?”

“With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers.
Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant.

You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City, Los Angeles, or even New York City!

From there you can direct your huge new enterprise.”

“How long would that take?”

“Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years.” replied the tourist.

“And after that?”

“Afterwards? Well my friend, that’s when it gets really interesting, ” answered the tourist, laughing. “When your business gets really big, you can start buying and selling stocks and make millions!”

“Millions? Really? And after that?” asked the fishermen.

“After that you’ll be able to retire,
live in a tiny village near the coast,
sleep late, play with your children,
catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife
and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends.”

“With all due respect sir, but that’s exactly what we are doing now. So what’s the point wasting twenty-five years?” asked the Mexicans.

This story is also true for software guy..:-) Lolzzzzzz

And the moral of this story is:

Know where you’re going in life….you may already be there

A Man Without Any Bad Habit……

Once a man was waiting for a taxi.

A beggar came along and asked him for some money. The man ignored him. But
being a professional, the beggar kept on pestering him. The man became
irritated when he realized that the beggar would not leave him alone unless
he parts with some money.

Suddenly an idea struck him.He told the beggar, “I do not have money, but
if you tell me what you want to do with the money, I will certainly help
you.” “I would have bought a cup of tea”, replied the beggar.

The man said, “Sorry man. I can offer you a cigarette instead of tea”. He
then took a pack of cigarettes from his pocket and offered one to the

The beggar told, “I don’t smoke as it is injurious to health.”

The man smiled and took a bottle of whisky from his pocket and told the
beggar, “Here, take this bottle and enjoy the stuff. It is really good”.

The beggar refused by saying, “Alcohol muddles the brain and damages the

The man smiled again. He told the beggar, “I am going to the race
course.Come with me and I will arrange for some tickets and we will place
bets. If we win, you take the whole amount and leave me alone”.

As before, the beggar politely refused the latest offer by saying, “Sorry
sir, I can’t come with you as betting on horses is a bad habit.”

Suddenly the man felt relieved and asked the beggar to come to his home
with him. Finally, the beggar’s face lit up in anticipation of receiving at
least something from the man. But he still had his doubts and asked the
man, “Why do you want me to go to your house with you”.

The man replied, “I always wanted to show my wife how a man with no bad
habits will look like.”

The ever increasing to-do list

Just to add some stuff to my otherwise-empty blog, I put this “things to do before I die” list that I had prepared sometime back. Flicked some points from web and added some of my own. Read this and let me know if we have something in common. This list seems to be increasing in magnitude at a very fast rate. It will soon become infinite.

1. Attend at least one major sporting event: the Super Bowl, the Olympics, the U.S. Open. (National Football- NFL)
2. Swim with a dolphin, for that I have to learn Swimming first.
3. Have your portrait painted.
4. Learn to speak a foreign language and make sure you use it(Even I tried with French..:P)
5. Watch the launch of a space shuttle.
6. Spend a whole day eating junk food without feeling guilty.
7. Tell someone the story of your life, sparing no details.
8. Own a room with a view.
9. Fall deeply in love, helplessly and unconditionally with someone who loves you equally.
10. Learn how to take a compliment.
11. Buy a round-the-world air ticket and a rucksack, and run away.
12. Be a member of the audience in a TV show.
13. Ride a camel into the desert.
14. Plant a tree.
15. Be the Boss.
16. At least watch one world cup final in which India would be one team.I know I know I didn’t do this time.
17. Write the novel you know you have inside you.
18. Be someone’s mentor.
19. Shower in a waterfall. (Niagara Falls)
20. Learn to play a musical instrument with some degree of skill.(Again Hard luck with Guitar).
21. Teach someone illiterate to read.
22. See a lunar/solar eclipse.
23. Spend New Year’s in an exotic location. (At the Times Square Ball drop, NY)
24. Get passionate about a cause and spend time helping it, instead of just thinking about it.
25. Experience weightlessness. (on a water ride in Disneyland)
26. Learn dancing (preferably Salsa or Belly Dancing).
27. Sleep under the stars,(Started doing it,as my new house is having stars at the roof top.:P)
28. Donate blood (I m ready to give, none are ready to take).
29. Find a job you love.
30. Overcome your fear of failure.
31. Travel in a ship.
32. Donate money and put your name on something: a college scholarship, a bench in the park.
33. Buy your own house and then spend time making it into exactly what you want.
34. Drive a convertible with the top down and music blaring. (Does being a passenger count here?)
35. Learn to use a microphone and give a speech in public.
36. Scuba dive off Australia’s Great Barrier Reef.
37. Attend one really huge rock concert.
38. Give to a charity — anonymously.
39. Create your own web site.
40. Skiing on Alps in Switzerland. ( Going on 22nd April 2011).
41. Set foot on each of the seven continents. (Just 2 covered India and Europe..:P)
42. Trek Himalayas.
43. Take African Safari.
44. Visit the source of one of the world’s great rivers like Amazon or Nile.
45. Climb an active volcano.
46. Photograph an endangered species.
47. Lose your way in a Forest/Jungle and then meet wild animals.
48. Kiss in rain.
49. Stand at the North or South Pole.
50. Ride a military fighter plane. (Have just seen them)
51. Climb the Great Pyramid of Egypt and shout.
52. Visit Disneyland.
53. Play Roulette in Las Vegas.
54. Visit Hollywood and the studios there
55. Walk the Golden Gate Bridge
56. Have your picture in the newspaper (for being a best student in my 12th)
57. Attend a school/college reunion.
58. Go to a film premiere.
59. Invent or discover something that changes the world for the better.
60. Spend a romantic evening with someone special in Paris.
61. Learn how to fix my own electronics gadgets.
62. Get a photograph taken by me published in some reputed magazine.
63. Own my own Island.
64. See a real missile/rocket/space shuttle
65. Get a tattoo.
66. Watch the sunset on a beach
67. Smile at strangers.
68. Become a pro at Cricket/Tennis or any sport.
69. Meet a childhood favorite actor/singer.
70. Write an article for a national newspaper.
71. Convert a room at home into a library and collect at least 10000 books.
72. Vote for someone on a TV reality show.
73. Get married to girl of my dreams and have a happy family with her.

Will add more to the list. What is on your must-do list? Suggest me more items to add to this list 🙂

Don’t Say Me “AUNTIE”

Real incident happened in office today ..:)

Before writing I want to say all to women, please don’t take is as any offense to your sentiments.

All men are warned not say Auntie to any woman EXCEPT she is her real auntie. This is the word, which is supposed to be one of the offensive words, if you address to any woman. Before addressing it, carefully see the woman. If she is more than 50, then it may be permissible. In metro’s men knowingly annoy women, by saying AUNTIE to those who are even younger to them. Some time I saw in buses, shops and markets, hot argument on this issue.

Reaction of women can be dangerous. It really hurts them. They feel better, if you address Bhabhi, Didi or Madam. Auntie makes them feel older. Who don’t knows women always like to be seen younger. A lot of time they know, the guys are flirting. But they want to listen it especially if you praise about her.

Now come to some interesting and funny situations, derived from “Don’t say me Auntie”.

Suppose Government put rule, that saying Auntie to the woman, who deserve Bhabhi or Didi is punishable like smoking at public place. What will be the guidelines to set these rules? Should women organizations raise voice against it? What is your opinion?

Hey I got a good idea to make an album (video) title – “Don’t say me Auntie”. Lead dancer – Rakhi Sawant in Saree and all older women from Kitty parties. Video will be full of comedy actions. It will be a hit sure

Attrition rate high?

What is this stupidity? I know the word stupidity doesnt exist, but it is the word used by my highschool maths teacher on situations like this and I like to use it.

Why do companies recruit people from outside and pay them more, and they are ready to loose their own valuable resources to other companies? What good is it to companies? Everytime they recruit new people they have to train them, give them KT on the project, make them understand the rules of the company..still the new person may or may not perform as well as the previuos guy, atleast he takes some time.
I understand very well working in the same project for one two years drives any person crazy….
Everyone wants change, wants to improve themselves in technology and domain skills.
They need salary hikes and want to work comfortably.

Sure every comapny can provide all these things, they just need to plan and follow.
Companies have to be employee friendly.

Why dont companies conduct internal interviews and selected ones get increased salaries, good designations, desired working locations, chance to work in the technology they need?

This will really reduce the Iteration Rate, I feel.